My regular Craigslist ad:

I post the following on Craigslist regularly, so I figure why not post it here too.

Who am I?

• A liberal intellectual who is baffled by the idiocy of the US electorate.
• A self-employed (aka underemployed) technologist who is known nationally in my field.
• A graduate of a well-known/respected school on the west coast (go bears!) with a degree in cognitive science and rhetoric
• A seasoned lover — I have been in committed relationships and know the fairy tale does not come without consistent work and communication.
• An outgoing citizen of the world — I know people in my environment, be that neighbors a my condo, regulars at the gym, members at church, or employees of the MBTA.
• Very intuitive — I can read people and situations wells. Few people truly appreciate what is behind the facade.
• Well traveled — I have been to Japan and all over the Caribbean – alone.
• A shocker — I am not what you would expect at first glance, and have lots to give.
• An avid reader and sun worshipper New Yorker and Wired are my two favorite magazines.
• 33, 6′0″, 175 lbs, bald & bearded.

What am I looking for and why do I post so regularly?

I am search for the proverbial needle in the haystack and will only succeed with persistence.

It is just extremely hard to convey my gestalt in either writing or in person in such a way that women can see me for me and get what I have to offer. I have found that this is a helpful medium to find the “quality” woman that i am looking for. I want an equal, a true partner. I want to challenge and be challenged intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. I want to be nurtured at the same time as I show my nurturing. I want to support someone in fulfilling her dreams and vice versa; committed, a mutually nurturing relationship. Ideally long term, leading to marriage and children.

What is the catch?

I have cerebral palsy and use a power wheelchair. Cerebral palsy is a real “grab bag” diagnosis for any damage to the developing brain before the age of 2 from various causes with different effects. It is neither progressive nor hereditary — it is what it is

I look “more disabled” than I actually am. In reality, I live on my own, only have help a few times a week (cooking, cleaning, etc — by the way, I will ALWAYS hire people, it shouldn’t be mixed with a relationship). There is nothing that I want to do that I am unable to do, and that is not a rationalization, truly. The only part of my disability that I would choose to get rid of is my speech — I’m somewhat hard to understand at first. I value my differences. A common unspoken question is my “manly abilities”. My cp has no negative correlation with prowess in the bedroom, I promise you. Once you have had a spastic encounter, you will never want any less. I say this not to be crass, but to portray the normalcy of it all. I crave to hold and be held, to touch and be touch, to love and be loved just like you do.

In order for this to work, you have to be comfortable, and I mean truly comfortable, in your own skin. It is not that I am “needy” or unable to give — but that you need to be ok with the juxtaposition between what you know and what the rest of the world perceives.

Could you be the one? Are you willing and ready to take the time to see the soul, depth, and drive that emanates from within me while I find the same in you?

Take the next step — drop me a line and lets find out together!